In Their Own Words – Modesty Becomes Her
Today, in this edition of In Their Own
Words, we talk to four women who were among the victims of a series of
robberies which targeted the Muslim community in our larger cities. What marked them out was the fact the man who
carried out the robberies picked his targets with great care, and was not
afraid to make sure anyone he visited was unable to raise the alarm, but at the
same time respected their cultural norms.
In the first story, we talked to Yasmin,
who lives in the Hounslow area of London.
She is a second year fashion student at a London college, and lives with
her parents, who own a string of local shops…
Just because I
am a Muslim woman, and follow some of the tenets of my faith, does not mean I
do not have to be dressed fashionably – especially as I am a fashion
student. So I do so – and on the day he
visited us, I was wearing an outfit I had put together. It was a long sleeved top, with a pink body,
black leather side panels and long lace sleeves, and under that I was wearing a
purple long sleeved top, the bottom of which came out from under my other
top. I also had a studded wide black
leather belt loosely hanging on my hips.
As for the
lower part of my outfit, I was wearing black leather leggings, tucked into a
pair of knee length purple suede boots with a stack heel. And naturally, I was wearing my hijab, a
black one over a scarf in the same shade as my top.
I actually had
an unexpected afternoon off, so I decided rather than work at the library I
would head for home and do my research there.
We live in a detached house a mile or so from Hounslow town centre, so I
took the tube to Hounslow West, and then walked the rest of the way.
Honestly, when
I let myself in, I had no idea of what was about to happen – the first I knew
was when I walked into the front room, and there he was. I guess he was a little older than me,
wearing a black leather jacket over a white shirt, dark trousers and sneakers –
but he also had on black leather gloves and black sunglasses, and he was searching
through a bureau where my mother keeps some things.
He must have
heard my gasp, because with one smooth movement he produced a gun and pointed
it at me, before he put a gloved finger to his lips to indicate I should be
quiet. Well, what was I going to do – he
had a gun! Looking at me, he apologised
for the mess he had made, but told me he was going to rob this house – and if I
did as I was told, no harm would come to me.
Something in
the way he spoke made me believe him, so I slowly nodded as he asked me to pass
over my mobile phone. I did this,
watching as he turned it off and put it to one side. He did say he would have removed the battery,
but the phone was too new, and too good to damage in that way…
It was a very
strange feeling, as I looked at him. He
was polite, charming – but he was an armed intruder! He looked at me, and seemed to read my mind as
he said he understood what I must be feeling, and that I would be all right –
if I turned slowly round, and stood with my arms by my side.
I did this, and
then I sensed him walk up behind me, before my hands were taken behind my back
and I felt rope going around my wrists.
He was talking to me as he tied them together, apologising for the
necessity of securing me. I did think at
the time he was been gentle, but firm – the ropes were tight, but not
uncomfortable.
That continued
as I watched him pass along, doubled over length of rope around my body, and
then pull it tight under my chest. This
had the effect of forcing my arms to my sides, as he wound it round me several
times. I did notice it was forming a
band above my chest as well, but it was not uncomfortable, and he kept talking
to me as he did this, keeping me calm, so that I actually started to feel safe…
He gave the ropes
one more tug and then tied them off, before he invited me to walk up to my
bedroom, where he was going to make sure I was comfortable, but out of the
way. Well, I knew I really had no
choice, so I walked in front of him, and we went into my bedroom.
Sitting on my
bed, I saw he had a black holdall with him, and as he placed it on the bed next
to me he asked me where I kept my jewellery.
I told him where he could find it – he was going to take it anyway – and
then watched as he opened the bag, and took out a length of thin white cord,
before he told me to sit with my legs on the bed, and cross my ankles.
As I watched,
he doubled the rope again, and he passed it round my ankles, pulling the ends
through the middle and then back as they were held together. He worked quickly after that, wrapping it
round just as tightly a few times more, and then separating the ends and taking
them between my legs to make it even tighter. I could see the cords sinking into the soft
fabric of my boots, and – well, it’s going to sound strange, but I could see a
strange beauty in it…
He then asked
me to forgive him, as he passed another length of cord around my legs below my
knees, and tied them together there as well.
He did stroke my legs as they were forced together, and I know a man is
not meant to touch a woman like that, hence his request for forgiveness – and I
did forgive him. In a way, he was doing
a job, and this was an unfortunate consequence of that.
When he had
finished, I looked down at the two bands of rope, going around and between my
legs, and tried to move them – with little more than the sound of my legs
rubbing together. The man looked at me,
and asked where I kept my scarves. I
directed him to the wardrobe, and he took out a black scarf, rolling it into a
band and tying a large knot in the middle as he once again apologised, and
asked me to open my mouth.
As he pushed
the knot between my teeth, I could taste the cloth on my tongue, even as the
knot pressed it down, and he tied the scarf band round my head, the knot
sitting at the back of my neck. I tried
to talk, but it was only a low mumble that came out, as he looked at me and
asked if I needed help to lie down.
I shook my head
and shuffled myself down the bed, lying on my aside with my head on the pillows
as I watched him take my jewellery and put it into the bag. He then turned on my bedside radio, and left me
in the room while he searched the rest of the house. I could hear him moving round, and I tried to
find a knot as well at my wrists, but it was tied out of reach of my fingers.
So I just had
to lie there, listening as he searched, and then came back in to check my
binding before he left me there. It was
another two hours before my mother came back and found me…
Yasmin later used her experiences as a basis for one of her course projects…
Although Muslim businesswomen are rare,
they are not unheard of, and one well known one in the Newcastle area is Jamila
Khan, the owner of a popular clothing store.
But one day, she was about to leave for work when she had an unexpected
visitor…
It was early
spring, and I had a meeting with my Business Manager at the local bank to
attend that morning. I was wearing a
gold headscarf as a hijab, over a black scarf, and my clothing was black for
business as well. It started with my
black coat tunic, buttoned up the front and with lace half-sleeves from the
elbow. Over this was a black sleeveless
jerkin, fastened round my waist with a leather belt. The dress came to an acceptable length on me,
but I also had on a pair of tight black leather trousers, the lower legs tucked
into knee length, high heeled black suede boots. Business like, and also fashionable for a
lady of my age and standing.
So I was ready
– I picked up my handbag, collected my car keys, went to the garage – and then
stepped back inside, my hands raised as I was followed by a very handsome
looking young man.
He was smartly
dressed, in a tailored suit, white shirt, dark tie, shoes shined – but he also
had a pistol in his gloved hand, and smiled as he looked at me through dark
sunglasses. He apologised for the
unannounced arrival, but said he wished to conduct some business with me, and
wanted to be assured nobody would interrupt us until that business had bene
completed.
Now, I tend not
to conduct business at home, and was about to tell him that – when I realised
he was saying he was robbing me, and he was going to make sure I could not stop
him. So I asked him how he intended to
do that, and in replay he held up a black bag, and said he would do it with the
help of what was in the bag.
Well, I could
tell he was serious, as the next thing he told me to do was to keep my hand sin
the air, and walk into the hallway. I
did as he asked, and when he asked (or ordered, if you prefer) me to disconnect
my phone, I pulled the plug from the wall socket and turned to look at him.
I admit, he was
well mannered, soft spoken, and never raised his voice, but his intention was
clear, as he then told me to go into my dining room. As we went in, he then ordered me to leave my
handbag on the table, and carry one of the dining chairs into the front room.
Once there, he
indicated I should sit down, with my hands on my head. I watched as he placed the bag on the couch
nearby, and then went to close the drapes over the windows, before smiling as
he walked back and put the gun down where we could both see it.
I asked what he
was going to do – and he said had I not guessed yet. He then opened the bag, took out a length of
white rope – and I realised his plans as he took my arms around the chair back,
and started to tie my wrists tightly together.
He was gentle in his actions, but knew what he was doing as I felt the
rope around and between my wrists, and then tied to the centre spar of the
chair back so that I really could not move them.
As he walked
back round, I complimented him on his skill, and he inclined his head to
acknowledge that before taking another length of rope, and kneeling at my
feet. Apologising for what was about to
happen, he lifted my feet and balanced them on his leg, before wrapping more
rope around my ankles and securing them tightly together. I could see the cord sinking into the soft
black fabric of my boots as it went around and between my legs, before he
gently lowered them and secured them to the front leg of the chair.
He certainly
was well mannered, and had made me sit in an – appropriate position, as he took
another length of the white rope, and tied my legs together below my
knees. As he did this, my legs rubbed
together, the soft squeak making him smile as he remarked how like a little
mouse it sounded.
I confess, that
made me laugh as well while he tied the ropes off, and then stood up, retrieving
a much longer length of rope from the bag.
Turning my head, I watched as he secured one end where the chair back
met the seat, and then wound it round me and the back, fixing me against it as
it wove in and out between the slats, and around my body so my arms and chest
were held firmly in place.
He even
apologised as, from time to time, the back of his hand stroked over my body,
but when he was finished I was very well secured, and with the way he had
secured my ankles so that the tows of my boots barely touched the floor, I knew
I was going nowhere.
He then sat next
to me, and as he asked me questions about the house, where valuables were
located, my safe, and the combination to it, I found myself answering his
questions truthfully. He had kept his
word and not harmed me, so I felt I was safe – yes, he was going to steal from
me, but that was all I realized he was going to do…
Eventually, he
thanked me, and then went back to his bag.
I was surprised to see him take out a green square sponge, but as he
compressed it in his gloved hand, and told me to open my mouth, I realised what
it was he was going to do. But then, I really
had no choice, did I? So I opened my
mouth, and allowed him to push the sponge in there. I felt it expanding, filling my mouth and
pressing my tongue down, as I closed my lips over it, and watched him take out
a wide roll of white tape.
Tape he then
proceeded to wrap tightly round my head, covering my mouth as he did so, the
tape making a squishy noise as it came off the roll and onto my head. I was glad of the scarf, which at least
protected my hair, but when he had finished and asked if I was uncomfortable, I
could barely make a sound, settling instead for shaking my head to show I was
all right.
He nodded and
then left me in the room, taking his bag with him as I was alone with my
thoughts and my prayers. I could hear
him as he moved about, and searched, and I imagined removed my valuables as
well as some jewels and money I had in my safe.
When he
returned, he checked all the ropes were still tightly knotted. He had nothing to fear on that score – I had
accepted what was happening, and relaxed, but it showed he actually was
concerned about me. He then made a deep
bow, wished me a good day, and left me alone.
It was about an
hour after that when my assistant found me – the bank had notified them I had missed
my meeting, and she had come to see if I was at home, ill. Well, I was certainly at home…
There were also reports of times when
this particular robber surprised families at home – some of which we may relate
in a future episode – but for today, we tell the tale of Fawzia,
a mother of a one year old boy who met the robber one Saturday afternoon…
I had taken
little Mo to a group at the mosque for young mothers, and I always like to look
my best when I go there. That particular
day, I had a black turban over my hair, and I was wearing a black leather
pinafore dress over a lone sleeved top, leggings and knee length black leather
boots. The only thing I was wearing
which was not red – apart from my necklace of beads – was my gold Rolex watch,
and my red leather jacket.
Anyway –
meeting went well, and I drove home with Mo, intending to give him a lunchtime
feed, change him and get him down for a sleep, and then eat myself. The afternoon, however, took a very different
turn when I went into our house, on the outskirts of Preston.
When I put the changing
bag down on the floor, I could feel a breeze from the kitchen, but I figured I
had just left a window open as I carried Mo into the front room – and there he
was. He was a little taller than me,
wearing a black jumper, pants and sneakers – and gloves, and sunglasses, as he
looked at me and smiled while he pointed a very real gun at me.
I was frozen
with fear, but then he spoke – softly, calmly, but with the tone of an imam, as
he said he was here to rob me, but so long as I did as he said, then no harm
would come to me. I just stared at him
as Mo started to cry, and I managed to blurt out I needed to give him a bottle.
The man then
did the most unexpected thing – he asked me if I was going to raise the alarm,
and when he shook his head he put the gun down, and took Mo in his arms, before
he said we should go and prepare his bottle in the kitchen.
I mean – he was
obviously an intruder, he was going to rob me, but he was letting me feed my
son? That floored me, but we went into
the kitchen, and as he tickled Mo’s chin I made up a bottle of milk for him.
He then
suggested I take my jacket off – which I did before I hung it over the back of
a chair – and then we walked back into the front room. He told me to sit down, and get comfortable –
which I did, and then he handed me back Mo, watching as I cradled him in my
arms and then started to give him the milk.
I watched my
son as he started the feed, not really paying attention to what the young
intruder was doing, but then I felt my ankles been drawn together, and as I looked
down I saw him kneeling at my feet, and wrapping a length of white cord around
them to secure them together. It was the
strangest of situations – I was feeding Mo, who was enjoying the feed, and at
the same time an intruder was tying my ankles together, making it almost
impossible for me to get up and raise the alarm.
I wasn’t sure I
wanted to, or he would allow me to do that anyway, as he stood up, took a
second length of rope from a bag on the coffee table, and then knelt again as
he started to bind my legs together below my knees. When he had finished, he apologise for the
necessity of doing that – but I was so focused on Mo, I merely nodded.
There was
another problem, however, when I had finished giving him the feed, and put him
over my shoulder to wind him – I could tell his nappy needed changing, and with
my legs tied like that?
The young man
could see the difficulty, however, and walked out to the hallway, returning
with my changing bag which he placed on the floor. I watched as he took the necessary items out,
and then took Mo from me, talking to him and tickling him as he proceeded to
remove his pants, and change his nappy.
And he did it
as a seasoned changer – which makes me wonder if he had a younger family as
well? I could only watch as he wiped
Mo’s bottom, put talc on, a clean nappy, put his clothes back on him, and then
handed him back to me as he giggled and waved his arms about.
He even put the
dirty nappy in a bag, and took it to the kitchen – and before you ask why I did
not call the police then, my handbag was in the hallway as well. In fact, he came back in with it, taking my
mobile phone out and switching it off before he took the cash from my purse and
put it in his bag.
He then looked
at me, and said he was going to have to make sure /I stayed quiet for a little
while, because he was going to have to go upstairs and take my valuables. That was understandable – yes, I did say that
– so I watched as he took a white cloth from his bag, folded it and told me to
open my mouth.
Mo watched as
he pushed the sloth in – it tasted a little of floral fabric conditioner as it
sat on my tongue, but it was doing the job of keeping me quiet in part. The other part came when he took a roll of
white tape from the bag, tore off a long strip, and the pressed it firmly over
my mouth and face, the fabric forming to the contours. I could feel it pulling slightly on my skin,
but he took a small mirror and allowed me to see myself, the shape of my lips
clearly visible underneath as Mo gurgled.
I may not have
been able to speak, but I could hum as I sat there, unable to get up with my
legs tied, and gently rocked my son in my arms as I hummed a lullaby. I knew very well that the intruder was in my
rooms, taking my valuables, but I was a mother, and my son had to be my focus…
When he came
back, Mo was fast asleep in my arms, so he went back to the hallway and brought
the car seat in. Taking him from me, he
sat him in the seat, and strapped him in, before he went to the bag, taking
more rope out as he asked me to lean forward, and put my hands behind my
back. He asked so nicely, I found myself
doing that, and looking at Mo as he bound my wrists tightly together behind my
back.
He then tied my
arms to my sides with two bands of rope, holding them firmly in place before he
tied two smaller lengths between my arms and body to make it tighter. Now all I could do was wriggle round, the
ropes on my boots and dress squeaking, as he collected his things, and waved at
Mo before he left the house.
Thirty minutes
later, my husband came running in, saying he had been called at work to say his
front door was open, and the car was outside.
The intruder must have let him know…
For our final tale today, we talked to Omaira, a twenty two year old student in Durham, who was
visited by the young man in her college rooms…
I’m in my final
year of my law degree, and I like to dress in a way that reflects my name – it
means Red, and on the day I met him, I was dressed to match that. My hijab was burgundy red, as was the long
sleeved smock top, the leatherette leggings, and the knee length Seventies
style stack soled and heeled leather boots.
The only thing which was not that colour was the top I had over my smock
– that was dusky pink, with sleeves that were gathered slightly at the cuff,
and held by two ties at my shoulders, with my smock clearly visible.
IT must have
been just before the Easter holidays, as I made my way back to my rooms – only
to find him sitting in a seat as I went in.
He was wearing a black hooded top, jeans and shoes – but as he pointed
the gun at me with his gloved hand, and told me to close the door, I realised
he was a real intruder.
At first, I
feared what his intentions were, but I think he sensed that fear, as he told me
all he wanted was my money and valuables.
He then looked at the clock, and said the most unexpected thing.
He said he
realised the time, and before he began, would I like to perform my prayers?
That had to be
the last thing I expected him to say, but I nodded as he stood up and to the
side of the room, allowing me to get my prayer mat out, put it in the right
position, and kneel down. Before I
started, however, he asked me to give him my handbag, which I did before I
started.
I was dimly
aware of him taking my mobile phone out, but my focus was on what I was
required to do, so I tried to ignore the fact an armed intruder was in my room
and began my prayers…
When I had
finished, and was kneeling, he told me to put my hands behind my back, which I did
as I heard him kneel behind me – and then I felt the thin rope as he tied my
wrists tightly together, the cords going around and between my arms before he
secured the ends. When he had finished,
I tried to find the knot or any ends left over, but they were well out of reach
of my manicured fingers.
I then saw a
long band of rope as it was passed over my upper body, before it was pulled tight
under my chest, forcing my arms to my sides and my chest out as he wound it
around above and below. I was starting
to get frightened about what he could do again, but he spoke, softly and
calmly, assuring me if I cooperated then I would not be harmed.
I could feel
the bands been pulled together behind me, before I felt him feed the rope under
one arm, then pull it through before he took it round the back of my neck, and
then under the other arm. That made the
binding even tighter, as he tied it off behind me, and then helped me to stand up
before I walked over to my bed.
As I walked
past my full length mirror, I caught a look at myself, the ropes framing and
forcing my chest out and the white against the pink and red. I smiled – and then he asked if I liked what I
could see.
The strange
thing was, it was good to look at, and I wasn’t scared. If anything, I was excited, and it just felt
so good to be like that… That was
something I had never expected to happen, as I sat down on my bed, watching
with interest as he crossed and bound my ankles tightly together, the rope
rubbing on my leather boots as it was pulled tighter with each pass.
He then took
the rope between my legs as well, before tying the ends off, and fetching a
further length. As he started to tie my
legs together below my knees, I thought of what an old school friend of mine
had told me when we met over Christmas, about some of her adventures.
I was beginning
to realise something of what Leila had meant, as he bound my legs together
trying not to react as he stroked the back of my legs – but when he was done, I
was very tightly bound, unable to move, the only sound the squeak as my legs
rubbed together.
He then went
back to the bag, and took a roll of duct tape and a small scarf. I guessed what was coming next. I opened my mouth and allowed him to push the
scarf in, then closed my lips as he tore off three strips of the tape, and
pressed them one by one over my mouth, leaving me only able to really mumble.
He then told me
to lie down, and roll onto my stomach – something I managed to do, as I
actually realised the ropes were tighter when I did that. Looking over my shoulder, I watched as he
pulled my ankles back, and tied them to my chest ropes, then I rolled over onto
my side and watched as he searched my rooms, and removed all of my jewellery,
putting in into this bag before he left me to struggle.
And yes, I
admit it – also I enjoyed been left helpless, unable to call for help, as the
sun set through my windows. It was a
good two hours before a porter walked back, saw my room doors were ajar, and
came in to see if everything was all right.
Well, it was
all right, but you know what I mean… My
parents were upset, but the insurance covered everything, and I discovered something
about myself.
Something
profound, and now I have joined a society where I and others like me can enjoy
been bound and gagged safely…
This had been In Their Own Words – join
us again next time…
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